During the past few years,
marriages within ‘gotra’ (clan) of the Jat community have come into the
limelight. Frequently, those couples who have eloped have been brutally
murdered by the dictates of the elders—these are known as ‘honor killings’.
Many such incidents have occurred in Haryana, Western Uttar Pradesh and the
rural belt of Delhi.
I was in the Jatland of
Jhajjar, a small town around 100 kms from Delhi. Around 80% of the honor
killings reported are done in and around Jhajjar. I decided to know more about
the place and their rituals and specifically about Khap.
Khap Panchayats are basically found in two communities in Northern India, Jats and Gujjars. These
communities were considered to be non-elite and basically were indulged in
agriculture and herding. There used to be rule of Muslim rulers in area around
Haryana and Delhi. So, a committee was developed in Jats community which used
to solve local issues. So, several Khaps developed in Haryana for each village
and area. The heads were elderly members of their castes. From centauries they
have solved the issues of local people. So, it doesn’t come to surprise that
even after their few orders of honor killing when Hayana CM Bhoopendra Hooda
tells that Khaps are like NGOs who are working for the society no one dares a
question.
But after the
Independence, Government of India has introduced the system of Gram Panchayat
where people are selected by people in a democratic way. Khaps heads are still
selected by the various caste people and only Jats are involved in their administration
activities.
Apart from giving Honor
killing decisions, they are also in criticism when they say girls should be
stopped wearing Jeans and using mobiles as it increases their chance of getting
raped. When a Dalit girl was raped by few Jat men, instead of condemning the
incident they said girls should be married early.
I tried to find about
their honor and their story by visiting one of the villages in the area. I
asked one of my Jat friends to accompany me to the village Jharli. As we
entered the village, we met Chaudhary Balwant Singh Jakhar, an elderly figure
of the community in white Kurta Payzama and a turban on his head smoking
Hookah, the water pipe which is often attached with pride of a person in
Haryana. It means when a person is out cast, it is said to stop his hookah-pani
in the village.
So, he told us that Jats
settlement in the region is as told as 800 years old. After Mohammad Gori
defeated Prithviraj Chauhan, Jats had fought the battle from Prithviraj side.
They got scattered and settled in the regions of Haryana like Jhajjar, Rohtak.
So the people of the region often refer their ancestors from Prithviraj Clan.
After that the region came under Mughals region and therefore, Jats instead of
going to Emperor formed a Panchayat in their own caste which used to solve
their issues.
But now, Khap Panchayat
has gone very far. Instead of just civil cases which they used to resolve, they
are giving death sentences to love birds who are marrying outside their Caste
or even marrying in their own gotra. Whenever any such incident is reported,
there comes a demand of banning the Khap-Panchyat but due to their political
reasons. None of the politicians dares to interfere between Khaps and common
people.
When I was roaming in the
countryside of Haryana, a person told me an amazing story about a couple of the
same region. There are many instances when a lover has created a memorial for
their lady love. But here is the story of a girl who immortalized her lover's
memory. The Bua ka talab (Bua's pond) located outside Jhajjar town stands
testimony to the legendary love story of Bua and Hasan that happened about 375
years ago. The duo were buried in the graveyard just at the edge of this
historic pond.
According to lore, love
blossomed between a high class girl, Bua, daughter of Mustafa Khan, a
bureaucrat who worked under the ruler of Jhajjar, and Hasan Khan, a poor
wood-cutter on a moonlight night in 1635. Bua, a teenaged girl was beautiful
and brave and often used to go horse riding in the evening. One evening she
came face to face with a tiger in a nearby jungle. Though she fought the tiger
but when she got injured, she shouted for help. Hearing her shout, Hasan rushed
to the spot and killed the beast with his axe. Bua impressed with the strong
and handsome Hasan fell in love with him. Hasan took the injured Bua to her
home. An indebted family asked him to stay in their guest room for the night.
That night Bua went to Hasan's room to express her feelings. The next morning
when Hasan was departing, Bua's parents wanting to honour him asked for his
wish and he expressed her desire to marry Bua. Her indebted parents, promised
to fullfill his desire, though unwillingly. After that Hasan and Bua used to
meet at a pond on the outskirts of the town. Though Mustafa had promised, he
was unwilling to marry off Bua to Hasan due to his poverty. It is said that
Mustafa sent Hasan in a battle as a soldier, knowing that his side was set to
lose. Hasan was killed in that battle. Bua performed her lover's last rites
near the same pond they used to meet at. She built a tomb in the memory of her
lover and also concretized the pond. 'On moonlit nights, Bua used to sit alone
through the night shedding tears in Hasan's memory. She too breathed her last
two years after Hasan died and was buried beside Hasan's tomb.
The
pond and the tombs located outside Jhajjar town on Bahadurgarh road stand
testimony of their love. Stories like these have kept the love alive where
daily some khaps are trying to kill them for their honor.
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